About Coaching

What is Life Coaching?

LC helps empower individuals and couples to get more from their life or specific areas of their life, for example, their career, confidence/self belief, social life, finances, health, relationships, spirituality and/or work/life balance. It can be easy to lose direction in our lives and LC aims to explore ways to enhance the skills, qualities and creativity we already have but may not be exploiting. LC can involve exploring attitudes, beliefs and values, discussing aims in life and setting appropriate corresponding goals. Unlike trying to achieve goals on your own, a LC helps keep you committed, motivated and focused. Like sports men and women have coaches to achieve their potential, a LC helps us to become the best we can be in our own lives.

Through LC, the coachee is enabled to think big and explore their passions and formulate goals that are in line with their core values. By developing an action plan, the coachee is assisted to keep on track and thereby achieve results. Additionally the LC aims to remove stumbling blocks that the coachee might have so that they can engage optimally with the things in life that are most important to them.

What are the benefits of Coaching?

What are the benefits of coaching?

People enlist the services of a LC because they want to improve their situations and achieve their goals. They want to learn new ways of thinking and approaching their life situations, in order to get better results.A skilled coach uses a combination of observation, questioning, listening and feedback to create a conversation based on insight and learning. For the coachee, they will experience a focus and attention that enables them to develop a greater awareness and appreciation and appraisal of their own circumstances. In addition, they’ll create new ways to resolve issues and achieve their goals more easily.

What are the common benefits of coaching?

  • Improved sense of direction & focus
  • Increased knowledge of self and self-awareness
  • Improved ability to relate to and influence others
  • Increased motivation
  • Improved personal effectiveness
  • Increased resourcefulness/resilience

How does Coaching work?

How does Life Coaching work?

LCs select from a range of different theoretical approaches and methods as well as bringing their own individual style to their work to help the coachee set and reach their own personal goals. LC has its roots in executive coaching, which itself draws on techniques developed in management consulting and leadership training.
LC also draws inspiration from disciplines including sociology, psychology, positive adult development, career counselling, mentoring and other types of counselling. At The Cove, I specialise in offering 2 theoretical approaches to coaching – Cognitive Behaviour Coaching and Neuro Linguistic Programming.

1) Cognitive Behaviour Coaching
Cognitive behaviour coaching is effective in helping people who are experiencing stress, anxiety or negative thoughts. In the counselling or therapeutic world this approach is termed Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT). This is useful for people experiencing clinical issues. In coaching the same principles can be applied so that people can achieve their full potential. Briefly, the cognitive component of this method relates to an individual’s thoughts and the behaviour component to how
that same individual responds; and both interact to affect how this person feels.

It helps to assist the individual to look at current thought patterns and/or responses that might only be exacerbating their problems. Once the cycle is understood there is the possibility of change, which in turn helps the individual to feel more positive.

A person might benefit particularly from cognitive behaviour coaching if they find themselves commonly thinking critical or judgemental thoughts. For further information about Cognitive Behaviour Therapy which, as mentioned is similar to Cognitive Behaviour Coaching please click on this link

2) NLP
Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP ) is a model which was developed in the 1970s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. The founders of NLP studied or ‘modelled’ the behaviour and thinking styles of highly effective, successful and happy people in business, education, sales, therapy, sport, and personal development. They concluded that these skills can be learned to improve effectiveness both personally and professionally. NLP teaches that we all start out with resources which enable us to be happy and successful.

Over time, our conditioning and learning can lead us away from fully employing these resources. With guidance, we can to work out how to more use them more effectively.

NLP allows us to understand ‘how’ we do something, not ‘why’. It helps us to identify the patterns by which we do something well and then replicate this approach in other aspects of our lives.

How does NLP work?
One of the important beliefs underpinning NLP is that our brain cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is imagined and this means that employed in the right way, our imagination can become a powerful resource. Imagination can be used as an adjunct to will power alone and manipulated to assist us to make the best possible choices. For example within a NLP coaching session the coachee might be encouraged to visualise and enter into their future and visualise the position and mental state that they want to achieve. The idea underpinning this method is that the more real the imagined positive future becomes then the more motivation and commitment the coachee can generate towards doing what they have to and making the choices they have to make, to achieve their desired future.

In NLP one particularly useful technique is to recreate a highly positive state of mind so that people can have the mindset to maximise their potential. From this NLP can help a person who wants to:

  • Feel more motivated, more positive, more focused
  • Manage their emotions – so that they can be influential, more resourceful, proactive and in control
  • Increase their self esteem, confidence and energy
  • Feel more positive and spend more of their life, happy

An example of how this might be applied is if someone was feeling nervous about attending a particular meeting, then the LC would seek to help them associate with the experience of the positive state or a feeling that they would want to have during that meeting. Then having practised recreating that positive state in their mind several times, when they get into the situation they felt nervous about, they can activate this mind set and then, feel the positive state they seek.

What happens during a course of coaching?

LC is a partnership between the LC and the coachee, in which the LC will encourage the coachee to explore how they can make positive changes in their life. A LC will help the coachee to firstly define their goals and then secondly stay focussed on achieving them. Every person’s goals are different, so it is difficult to say how many LC sessions will be needed however it is expected that it will be somewhere between 4-20. Some people see the benefit in having access to a coach on an ongoing basis, however it really depends on the needs of the individual. LC is adaptable and can be face to face, via Skype, telephone or email. Individual face to face sessions last 50 minutes and couples sessions 80 minutes. Telephone, Skype and email sessions may vary in length. The content of each session will change but will typically include the discussion of the coachee’s specific aims and the formulation of goals and the integration of an assortment of methods to work towards these. A LC listens to the coachee to understand who they are, what they think and how they experience the world. During conversations, a LC will reflect back to the coachee their objective assessment and in turn the LC will encourage the coachee to rise to challenges, overcome obstacles and put their priorities into action, through a variety of methods.

Between sessions, it is for the coachee to challenge or reflect upon certain ideas to help them move forward with their life and they will be encouraged to make decisions about their actions between sessions. Because the coaching relationship is based on trust and openness, the contents of your discussions will be confidential so the coachee will be able to explore their thoughts and feelings privately. Where a third party has requested the coaching for an individual, it will be agreed with the coachee as to the best way to keep the third party involved or updated

Executive/Professional or Career Coaching

Business/Professional/Executive coaching (EC) is a useful approach for people who are concerned about their career progression or other professional concerns. It aims to help individuals move forward with greater confidence and optimism.

EC can occur in 2 forms;

  1. An individual can come to a coach for advice on a work related issue or
  2. A company can employ a professional to coach its employees in-house

In both cases, the range of issues that a EC might address would be similar, for example, an individual’s:

  • Exploration of core competencies and interests
  • Reviewing career path options
  • Improving motivation
  • Developing better leadership/management skills
  • Improving relationships with colleagues, junior and/or senior staff
  • Developing interpersonal communication and conflict resolution skills
  • Addressing work/life balance
  • Enhancing ability to manage stress and time

The emphasis of EC is likely to be targeted towards work-related issues, though the individual’s personality, experiences and approach to life will direct how the individual makes specific work choices, how they perform at work and how they feel about their work life. In EC, of particular relevance is an individual’s strengths, interests and options and also any real or perceived barriers to them being able to take control. EC helps people gain confidence in their own perspective and, thereby trust their own judgment when assessing next steps.

Positive Lifestyle Change including Weight Loss Coaching

Living a healthy, balanced life is a key aspiration for most of us. We understand the benefits of adopting healthy lifestyle choices, such as, losing weight, exercising, eating healthy foods, drinking in moderation and not smoking to name but a few, however it is not easy to make positive lifestyle changes and it’s even harder to stick to them. Knowing what’s right and actually achieving it are two different things.

In addition to tackling specific lifestyle choices, Positive Lifestyle Change Coaching can help individuals who are trying to:

  • Improve their general health
  • Identify ways to change their life for the better
  • Stick to a commitment they have made to improve their lifestyle
  • Address a mild addiction or recurrent problem area

Through effective LC, individual’s are enable to clarify their motivation for change, feel positive about taking up challenge, understand why past attempts may have been unsuccessful and work out a realistic strategy to implement lasting change.